The meme pops up on my news feed after a stressful day, when I’m frazzled by the demands of working motherhood.
It is short, authoritative and, until recently, I would have found it funny: ‘Stop posting your problems on Facebook and start drinking like the rest of us.’
In a flash, I’m transported back to the evenings before I stopped drinking nine months ago, when downing wine was my instinctive solution to every worry.
This reminder of my old life, timed as it is, leaves me sorely tempted to start again. Had I not learned to manage my cravings — were I one of the 32.9 per cent of adults recently revealed to be drinking at risky levels — I would undoubtedly have caved.
As I force myself to remember the reasons I gave up — better mental health, reduced anxiety, improved productivity to name but a few — my temptation segues into curiosity.Why has Facebook shown me this meme in the first place? It looks like it has been posted by someone I know — but it hasn’t. Instead, I discover, it’s from a Facebook page called Wine Time that two of my friends ‘like’, meaning, thanks to the platform’s algorithm, it is more likely to appear on my own feed.
Followed by more than 768,164 people, since 2014 Wine Time has posted more than 6,000 memes — quirky photos with funny captions overlaid on them — endorsing alcohol.It targets its 85 per cent female audience by promoting wine as an empowering substance that deepens friendships and boosts confidence. Downsides, from hangovers to blackouts, are all part of the humorous draw.
‘Blackout binges in my teens and 20s had morphed into less extreme but arguably more insidious drinking in middle age, when alcohol seemed to offer a way to ‘take the edge off’ everyday life,’ Antonia Hoyle writes
In one meme, there’s a tumbler of red wine alongside the caption ‘because kids’.
Another has a picture of two women drinking with the words, ‘Friends bring happiness to your life . . . best friends bring alcohol.’ Others explicitly endorse binge drinking. Take this imaginary conversation captioned on a picture of two female friends. ‘Bestie: We met for coffee, how did we end up blacking out?!
Me: I took your idea and made it better’ [accompanied by a smattering of wine emoji].
I have spent nine months learning how detrimental my relationship with alcohol could be — how, far from boosting confidence, it fractured friendships and sabotaged my self-esteem.
Blackout binges in my teens and 20s had morphed into less extreme but arguably more insidious drinking in middle age, when alcohol seemed to offer a way to ‘take the edge off’ everyday life.Until feelings of burnout and paranoia grew so strong I wondered if a life without alcohol might not be happier.
Now, I feel angry that an account that so unapologetically normalises alcohol abuse among women is allowed to exist. I realise it is far from the only social media account advocating alcohol as a feminist activity.
You’ve probably seen some of the memes yourself — from ‘Wine is to women, what duct tape is to men, it fixes everything’ to ‘What kind of wine pairs with smashing the patriarchy?’
And while Wine Time has no overt links to the alcohol industry, the major alcohol manufacturers, having saturated the male market, are now subtly exploiting a similar narrative to sell their products to women.
In a research paper published this year — ‘Pretty in Pink’ And ‘Girl Power’: An analysis of the targeting and representation of women in alcohol brand marketing on Facebook and Instagram — academics studied 2,600 social media posts from alcohol brands between 2019 and 2020.They found gendered marketing is widespread.
The ‘pinkification’ of products has been well-documented (think the huge growth of rose wine and #drinkpink promotions) but brands also show alcohol as ‘an essential component of female friendship’, emphasising its importance by talking about ‘besties’ and ‘BFFs’.
They encourage us to tag each other in their social media posts, and bill alcohol as a way of turning back time and relinquishing responsibilities.As I entered middle age, I swallowed this sales pitch unthinkingly to legitimise my drinking and most women still do. (‘Aren’t you worried you’ll lose all your friends?’ and ‘How do you deal with stress if you don’t drink?’ are two of the most common questions I’m asked since quitting.)
Antonia says that ‘the major alcohol manufacturers, having saturated the male market, are now subtly exploiting a similar narrative to sell their products to women’
But there was nothing feminist about my behaviour when I was binge drinking. It reduced my interaction with friends to repetitive rants and lowered my inhibitions to the point where I’d spill best friends’ secrets and stagger off.
It put me in a constant state of stress so work deadlines felt insurmountable and I was exhausted, not empowered, by those ‘medicinal’ glasses of wine during ‘mummy time’ that left me sleeping poorly and waking racked with shame.
Once, booze was advertised as a way to attract romantic partners, but brands are now aligning themselves with feminist causes.Diageo, one of the world’s biggest alcohol companies, whiuch makes Smirnoff and Baileys, has sponsored International Women’s Day.
Absolut vodka has backed a charity fighting against sexual violence and pop star Ellie Goulding’s new alcoholic drink, Served, posted on social media about donating revenue to a charity campaigning against female homelessness.Yet how feminist is it for an alcohol brand to support an end to sexual violence, when 39 per cent of victims of rape or assault say they were under the influence of alcohol?
The same number say the perpetrator was also under the influence and men dependent on alcohol or drugs are six to seven times more likely to abuse their partner.
These same companies are (understandably) lobbying against one of the few measures the World Health Organisation says can help reduce alcohol abuse — increasing the taxes on alcohol so it costs more.
‘Alcohol companies are targeting women with messages of empowerment and feminism,’ says Dr Athanasia Daskalopoulou, Senior Lecturer in Marketing at the University of Liverpool Management School.’Yet the only thing they’re empowering women to do is engage in harmful behaviour.’
‘Big Alcohol’ — an industry worth an estimated £46 billion in the UK — is not solely responsible, of course. This damaging narrative is overwhelmingly spread through social media platforms, which seem unwilling, or unable, to stop it.
Where do all these posts extolling heavy drinking come from?Do women really feel strongly enough about wine to make hundreds of celebratory memes?
There is no sign of who runs the Wine Time Facebook page — a site that, despite having been in operation for eight years and boasting a monthly organic (that is, not via ads) reach of 28 million viewers, had yet to complete Facebook’s ‘verification process’ when I came across it this summer.Curious, I emailed the address provided on the page to ask who had set it up, but received no reply. When I contacted the page via Facebook messenger, nobody responded — my messages don’t even show up as ‘read’.
I get asked ‘How do you deal with stress if you don’t drink?’
The only clue as to Wine Time’s origin is a LinkedIn account, which describes it as a ‘social media marketing specialist’ based in Northern Ireland that is ‘looking for advertisers’.In other words, explains internet security expert James Bore, ‘I expect they have built up a following using these wine memes so they can monetise the site with adverts, whether that’s from the alcohol industry or elsewhere.
‘Given the huge number of posts, it could be they are automated, with a human only commenting on the page every now and again to make it look more authentic.It might look like a personal account, but it’s very much intended as a business. It’s legal, but not necessarily ethical.’
On Instagram, Drunk Moments UK, with 30,000 followers, posts regular memes with captions such as, ‘Friends: please don’t black out again. Me: I won’t.’ (accompanied by a picture of a woman winking).Stock photo used
So should Facebook allow it? Alcohol is a drug that causes seven types of cancer and is set to cost the NHS £5.2 billion over the next 20 years. Facebook bans tobacco advertising and gambling adverts are only allowed with written permission from the company.Yet the account remains after I reported it — twice — to Facebook on the grounds that, as a business page, it hasn’t completed its verification process and does not say who it is run by. There are plenty of similar groups, whose creators are also often unknown.
On Instagram, Drunk Moments UK, with 30,000 followers, posts regular memes with captions such as, ‘Friends: please don’t black out again. Me: I won’t.’ (accompanied by a picture of a woman winking).
Another account, Women Who Love Wine posts ‘Wine tastes better when your mental health is sh*t’ and ‘The first drink after a long day of work doesn’t count; it just levels your mood back to normal.’
On TikTok — where branded content promoting alcohol is globally prohibited — 98 per cent of the top 100 videos using the hashtag #alcohol contained positive portrayals of alcohol, according to a study in the Journal of Studies on Alcohol and Drugs last year (TikTok claims this study is not representative of most users’ experiences).It also found alcohol consumption on the site is associated with friendship, which certainly tallies with the #imgonnabehungover viral trend on the site this year.
Started by the all-female trio Haim, who sang gleefully about how they were going to ‘drink a bunch of different drinks’ to ‘be hungover’ en route to the Oscars, the jokey song sparked millions of almost entirely female copycat renditions, including one by TV presenter Holly Willoughby, with two female friends.Watching it on Willoughby’s Instagram this April prompted nostalgia for my drinking days, despite knowing the song presented a worrying façade — 12 per cent of people report feeling anxious with a hangover. It can alter our brain chemistry for up to ten days. Of course, no alcohol manufacturer is allowed to endorse drinking to excess and the Advertising Standards Authority doesn’t let brands link consumption of alcohol to increased popularity or confidence.
Yet the idea that alcohol can consolidate friendships and improve wellbeing is implied, if not overt.Wine company Blossom Hill recently described the key components of summer as ‘sunny days’, ‘best friends’ and ‘delicious wine’ and launched a 30th birthday Facebook campaign with Love Island presenter Laura Whitmore, filmed sipping rosé.
The campaign aligns itself with feminist ideals with the line, ‘Let’s kick those expectations around ageing to the curb [sic].’
Fellow wine label Echo Falls also suggests wine is conducive to friendship on social media, with pink-coloured Instagram memes such as ‘That one friend who is most definitely a bad influence .. . But also the best on a night out’ accompanied by the hashtags #WineTime and #BFF.
While alcohol manufacturers stress the importance of drinking ‘responsibly’, few specify what that actually means — unsurprisingly, given one study found the industry would take a £13 billion hit if consumers complied with recommended guidelines.
Another account, Women Who Love Wine posts ‘Wine tastes better when your mental health is sh*t’ and ‘The first drink after a long day of work doesn’t count; it just levels your mood back to normal.’ Stock photo used
Some seem to poke fun at attempts to cut down: Echo Falls posted an Instagram meme in January 2020 that read, ‘Dry January Inspiration — Dry White Wine — Dry Red Wine’ and this summer Blossom Hill’s Facebook account advised: ‘When experiencing a heatwave, it’s important to stay hydrated’ — with a winking emoji.
Most insidious of all, perhaps, is the sponsoring of feminist movements and events.
Baileys sponsoring the Women’s Prize for Fiction, for example. In 2018, Smirnoff launched an ‘Equalizer’ campaign to boost female artists on music streaming platform Spotify, while Absolut launched a social media campaign called #sexresponsibly in 2020, to shine a ‘spotlight’ on the issue of consent.
It partnered with RAINN, an anti-sexual violence organisation, to implement campaigns to stop people from using alcohol as a tool to excuse or violate consent.
Admirable? Perhaps. Yet a cynic would argue Absolut’s parent company Pernod Ricard stands to gain most.Nowadays, most of us know alcohol damages health, so the idea it can somehow enhance our lives is tempting to cling to as an excuse to keep drinking.
The unpalatable truth — that alcohol is a toxin that can leave us feeling lower than we ever would without it — is altogether more difficult to swallow.
